Sexuality during pregnancy: little guide the couple

Whether you're a naughty mood or too tired or sick to feel like any relationship, sexuality during pregnancy is definitely a new experience. While some women say they never took much pleasure in the thing, others are far from being as enthusiastic. Both reactions are, of course, quite normal. Let's see why. If you're one of those for whom sex is especially nice during pregnancy, be aware that this is probably your state of pregnant woman who is the cause. The increased intensity of desire, and pleasure felt, is most likely due to the greater influx of blood received by the pelvic area - uterus, vagina and clitoris - an area where sensitive nerve endings. It may also make you feel finally free from concern for the design or contraception - a bedroom cleared of condoms, pills, gels, diaphragms or other being synonymous with love making more direct, spontaneous and relaxed.

If instead, you stand rather at the other end of the spectrum - since you are pregnant, sex is not even on the table - do not worry, you're not alone. The same congestion that carries some women at the height of pleasure in other causes discomfort overflow or even cause abdominal cramps during or after sex. Perhaps you feel just too tired to make love or do you have nausea - so difficult to want to even think about it. This is particularly the case in the first quarter - sore breasts, nausea, vomiting, and fatigue, many uncomfortable and unpleasant phenomena that may decrease libido. On the emotional level, also, a pregnant woman may feel less desirable or more will turn his thoughts to her unborn child as to his own pleasure. But the first phase of pregnancy exceeded, things should improve. Indeed, for many women, the second quarter is synonymous with renewed energy and desire found. During the last quarter, however, your outbursts will again tend to fall, this being due to the approach of childbirth, pain that await you and the weight of your belly. At this point, some women simply feel too fat and less attractive to even think about sex.

The luckiest among men will enjoy the changes that pregnancy brings to their sex life.

However, just as some women, the spouse may have various reservations about sex during pregnancy. Different elements are likely to restrain his desire: the desire for your health and baby's, apprehension, anxiety aroused in him the authorship, fear that sex may be harmful to the baby or even a feeling of shyness and modesty at the thought of making love in the presence of the little creature that will soon emerge. Here are the most common myths about sex during pregnancy:

Myth # 1 ~ Having sex cause premature labor. There is no medical basis indicating that sex during pregnancy cause birth - or miscarriage, but breast stimulation may accelerate the production of oxytocin, a chemical that can cause contractions when the expected date of birth is near. But wait. As pregnancy progresses, you will discover that having light contractions is about as possible - or even likely - that no report so far on inducing labor. This is something very normal during pregnancy. Sexes pose no threat to the time of delivery. Your doctor or midwife may decide, however, it would be better to limit sex if your pregnancy is high risk. This precaution is aimed, in particular, woman with a history of preterm delivery or cases of early cervical dilation, placenta previa, premature rupture of membranes, vaginal bleeding, or painful intercourse.

Myth # 2 ~ having sex is dangerous for babies. Often, moreover, the movements made during the act that will rock the child will sleep quietly. You will not hurt him, even if your spouse is on you (although this position is neither recommended nor very comfortable late in pregnancy). In fact, your anatomy is such that it naturally protects the child. The thick mucus plug at the cervix to help prevent infection. And the amniotic sac and the powerful muscles of the uterus are home baby. But then, why these kick you feel after orgasm? The child probably does something? Is he angry? He suffers? But, no. It simply reacts to the faster pace of your heartbeat.

Myth # 3 ~ having sex will hurt me. Envy you missed perhaps to explore your sexuality in new ways, but the test positions other than those you practice usual (above you, sitting on the lap of your partner, side by side face to face or spoon) may make you reach a climax during lovemaking enjoyment yet unsuspected. After a few attempts, you and your spouse find a good position, a technique that will please you both. Remember, to encourage you, some women even know their first orgasm during pregnancy - because of hormonal changes and increased influx of blood in the pelvic region.

Myth # 4 ~ The oral sex should be avoided. It is a common misconception that oral sex “ordinary” poses a risk to you or the baby. This is false. In fact, many couples will find a satisfactory solution if the penetration is not recommended. And this is a practical option when traditional sexual positions become uncomfortable (because of the size of your belly, for example). Only one caveat: the air. Make sure your partner avoids blowing air into your vagina, which could result in air embolism, a condition potentially very serious, even fatal.

Pregnancy is a time for your life to focus on intimate sexual experiences and love with your spouse. This is also an inspiring time for many couples, which leads them to discover exciting new ways to express their love and getting closer. The key in this transition period before becoming parents is to enjoy being together as friends and lovers. Set aside some moments just for you two, romantic moments - they lead to sex or not. Create opportunities to be together physically. Take a bath for two. Get a massage. Kiss you, shake you tenderly. Strengthen the bond between you. And the unborn child will flourish in this atmosphere of love that you wrap them.